Peace offering

When given a peace offering with out any explination what do you do? Does the pain of what happened between the two of you just up and go away with out talking to each other? Is the peace offereing the "I am sorry?" When it is your husband there really isn't a sorry needed because we let it go so why can I not just take the peace offering and let the hurt go with others? Who is really suffering, them because I am avoiding and ignoring the situation or me because I am holding on the the hurt with them knowing or not knowing? If I had enough wall space I would explain all that happened but trust me there is not enough wall space!